In this day and time, everyone is so busy! Many parents find themselves juggling jobs, aging parents, homework, kid's activities, and their adult responsibilities. But with all of your comings, goings and doings, you may be neglecting an all-important aspect of your child's success: his or her emotional well-being.
The first three years of life is critical and all adults involved in your child's life need to put forth great effort to ensure that your child's emotional needs are met on a daily basis. The consequences of not meeting a child's emotional needs during this time can result in violent, disruptive or defiant behaviors.
Why?
During the first three years your child learns bonding and emotional separation. If either of those experiences is developmentally interrupted or inappropriate, misbehavior from your child can be the result. This can hinder the development of healthy relationships as adolescents and drastically affect the relationships your child has as an adult. You know that person who seemed like a "great catch"... until you discovered the emotional baggage he or she kept hidden in their trunk, those childhood skeletons that kept him from committing and her from submitting.
During the first three years of life, the brain goes through its most rapid development ever and by the time a child is three-years-old their brain is already 'hardwired' from the experiences they've had to that point. That alone makes it imperative that your child be surrounded by loving, supportive, safe, positive people so his or her brain will be conditioned to expect great things. But, if your child has been in frightening, hurtful, abusive, or dangerous environments, his or her brain will be conditioned to expect negative things.
What can you do?
1. Put forth concerted effort to make sure your child's emotional needs are met in an encouraging, constructive and healthy manner. Guard your child from being the object of hurtful and demeaning statements.
2. Ensure that your child's care is stable and consistent, and try not to switch care takers during this important phase. Note: quality care is more important than stability, so DO NOT leave your child in unsafe, unhealthy care in the name of stability and/or consistency.
3. Ensure your child feels safe and secure with structured and consistent schedules and routines. Children need to know what to expect and what is expected of them.
4. Be sure to spend as much "quality time" as possible with your child during the first three years, regardless of your busy and hectic lifestyle. A child can sense that your schedule is stressful to you and can become frightened or confused; therefore it's important to show your child that you're never too busy for them.
Your child's emotional well-being is just as important as meeting their physical needs, so do your part to ensure your child knows he's growing up safe, secure, treasured and loved.
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From Linette Daniels- "The Youth Success Doctor"
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