Everything your child does IS NOT YOUR FAULT!
TRUE, you could have done some things differently. TRUE, you could have done some things better. But it is possible, believe it or not, for GOOD PARENTS to raise children who make BAD CHOICES.
There comes a point in your child's life when they must take responsibility for what they do.
It's always easier to blame others for our misgivings but how does that help the blamer grow? You're right, it really doesn't!
So not only do you need to teach your child to think things through, make good decisions and solve problems wisely, YOU also need to stop playing rescue ranger! If you run to break your child's fall and fix your child's problems, YOU are actually planting and fertilizing a BLAMER!
It is very difficult to watch your child make mistakes that you have the knowledge or ability to prevent, but every time you aren't there in time to prevent a problem, your child will blame you and learn nothing at all.
Teach them, lead by example, and then GET OUT OF LIFE'S WAY. You need to be available when they want to talk things through but don't make decisions for them! If it's not a matter of life and death, your child WILL be okay.
Yes, you are going to make mistakes too.
When kids are young and they do something inappropriate like steal another child's truck or hit their cousin or talk back to their teacher, parents can often be heard saying "You owe John an apology, young man. Now go over there and say you're sorry"
Well, kids certainly need to learn how to humble themselves and apologize when they are wrong. Right?
So why is it so hard for you to apologize to your kids? Surely you are not always right and you can't possibly be perfect, so what seems to be the problem? You must LIVE what you want your children to be. How will they learn to apologize if you never do? How can they recover from mistakes if they don't have an example to follow?
And one of the things kids often say is that parents don't listen and parents always have to be right. The results of that posture are children who don't listen, don't talk and often times, won't care. That is certainly not what you want but that is what you may very well get.
1. How do you feel when your significant other won't apologize to YOU when they are wrong?
2. How does it feel when your boss doesn't listen to you?
3. How does it feel, even now, when your parents always have to be right? (you know, when they are telling you how to raise your kids)
Well guess what, Kids Are People Too!
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From Linette Daniels- "The Youth Success Doctor"
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